The "Secret" about the movie The Secret
posted to Storytell on March 4, 2007
The Secret is a great beginning tool, but it doesn't share the greatest secret of all. Underneath the thinking certain thoughts for Law of Attraction there is an even greater Power at work inside every person! The movie doesn't address the basis of why you can have anything you want. To really have what you want, not only do you have to know what it is you want, be able to visualize it, etc. You have to also know that you deserve it and that there is a Power greater than you that wants you to have it.
In order to internalize this, you have to make time to be still and listen to that inner voice. Inside of each and every person is a wonderful power that anyone can use. I like to use the metaphor of the ocean. I am not the ocean, but a single drop having all the same qualities as the ocean. Working together we can accomplish so much more. Until everyone really understands who and what they are, there will always be problems needing to be addressed. Like the story of the man and the seashells, one person at a time! I am glad the Secret is helping people to understand more of how the power works.
<we began to realize how difficult a subject it is to talk about... all the hurtful behaviors> Often times it is not the children who are at the root of harmful behaviors, but well meaning parents and teachers who haven't got a clue regarding the irreparable damage being caused or sometimes promulgated. It is why like the chief in the story, we must provide models of what could possibly be. The chief taught indirectly through story. Even primitive storytellers taught by acting out the story of the successful hunt BEFORE the hunt involving everyone in the telling of the story. Each person's story is important to the final story.
The first graders had so much they wanted to share with me once the flood gates of communication were open. OF course, they SEE their loved ones engaged in unhealthy behaviors. How do children begin to address the incongruence of adult behavior which they know is wrong when they cannot articulate many of the unfair situations they find themselves in? By learning to use the power of making better choices when and where they can. They can grow up to be great people; they just have to know it is possible for them to do so. Most people who grow up in troubled environments learn this quite by accident.
To learn you do have power to change your life is an awesome power! Sometimes ill behaviors are even seen in teachers; in professional educators even at the college level. Do you still flinch when you recall some incidences with your teachers? (This is not about blaming teachers either...it is about calling a spade a spade and then using the same spade to plant some seeds.) Judith shared with me a story about a little girl, her actions entirely misunderstood by her teachers after being "labeled a bad girl". Imagine her daily discomfort as she struggled to operate in an environment that told her she was not good and treated her badly.
Even my daughter told me of an incident with a highly respected teacher shaming her in front of the entire class when I innocently shared my daughter's insight with the teacher. I could not imagine such cruel behavior was happening and I didn't know about it. My daughter didn't tell me until years later to prevent me from "sharing" with the teacher again. How can children defend themselves from such attacks? Adults can walk away and have some means of remedying the situation, but children cannot defend themselves from well meaning adults.
One first grader had a parent in jail! How can this child begin to understand she could choose to make a different choice for herself? By understanding and knowing that behaviors are governed by our brains/our minds and we are each responsible for our behaviors. We make good choices when we are in touch with our bodies and our thoughts. When we are listening to what is going on within. Then we decide to make good choices because it is the right thing to do. I explained in my stories that some adults have not learned how to master their minds and bodies. And that these first graders were lucky to get this opportunity to learn how to listen to their minds and bodies and make good decisions. I also continued to stress that making good decisions is smart. These boys and girls ARE smart! I planted the seeds and intend to water them next year.
(Every person IS smart; but few people are busy telling that to our children, let alone telling it to ourselves!) I think we are on the right track of focusing on what we want. However, people also have to learn how to be responsible for themselves and be taught how to make good choices that reflect self love. That can only be done when everyone understands their personal power and operates from choices of empowerment. We have a responsibility to educate all people not just those who can afford it. Did you know that in Jamaica, they have to pay for an education? (I told that to the kids too. Education is not free everywhere. Those who get it for free don't always appreciate it.)
<What would our storytelling programs look and sound like, if rather than using stories to 'combat' racism, drugs, violence, we framed our thinking and approach towards how do we use storytelling to imagine the class, town, world we want to create?>
In my humble opinion there are plenty of stories already in existence that provide models for kids and adults to use. The "trick" is applying the principles in our own lives and living in such a way that we embody the stories we tell. The sheriff mentioned to me he'd had another teller share stories about "Don't do drugs", but when questioned by the same kids whether he had ever "tried" he could not definitively answer no. The sheriff thought the program went down hill from there. The students think how can you tell me not to when you have. How can we teach what we haven't learned ourselves?
Right after I'd made my "peace" cd, I had everything but peace. It was as if I was taking a course on peace that I didn't know I had registered for. I had to dig deep to find answers to what gave me the right to teach peace when I couldn't maintain peace in my own family? My brother was killed shortly after the CD was made and I felt I just didn't have the right. Finding peace was a circuitous route. But I could share where I was in my journey and how I was able to make choices for peace no matter what was happening in my world. Peace really is an inside job. I believe kids want straight answers and not platitudes of "do as I say not as I do." I think they want to see how we apply what we say believe and they want to be listened to just like everybody else. Stories provide a framework for everyone to learn how to use their creative abilities in ways that benefit our world, and the self.
I don't think we should focus on having utopian society. I think we live on planet earth for the precise purpose of learning how to get it right. If we knew it all we wouldn't be here. That's why we call it earth and not heaven. It's really wonderful that we all have something to contribute and once we finally master our agendas, we start again. I was lucky to have Judith's husband share the story of Ho’oponopono with me when they were here. I went to the website: http://www.hooponopono.org and read the articles he'd written. I have been taking 100% responsibility for everything from the way things have been handled in New Orleans with regard to Katrina, the war in Iraq, global warming, my family, everything that concerns me--I take full responsibility for the NEED to have it show up in and as part of my experience.
Then I turn it all over to the Light (who already knows how to solve the problem satisfactorily) to dissolve it. I think it has made an even greater difference in my attitude and how I feel about things.
<let's put out energy into the courage to create fearlessness!> Let's take full responsibility for what is showing up in our lives, forgive ourselves for the need for it and turn it over. I've decided I cannot create fearlessness, but there is a Power inside each of us that knows exactly what is needed in each situation to make the necessary correction in the lives of all concerned. It knows if fearlessness is what's needed. It knows which stories we need. Hence the right stories will show up as we need them. The stories are perfect for you and the situation you're involved in. Learn to listen and you will be shown the way.
In many ways that is the hardest part, listening. Hence we storytellers have an awesome job. Teaching the art of listening! LOL! I am listening.